A perfect wife and a perfect husband

 Let us begin with istighfar...Astaghfirullahhalazim...SubhanAllah.. 

Actually, hari ni nak cakap fasal tingkah laku kita as a wife. Sebenarnya sangat senang kan seorang isteri nak masuk syurga..kerana syurga bergantung pada layanan, taat setia, kata hati, dan doa kita kepada suami. Tapi cuba kita muhasabah balik diri kita as a wife ni..selama berkahwin ni...kita ni lebih banyak merungut ke or lebih banyak take things positively and bersyukur?

I have been married for 4 years now. Alhamdulillah. Kejap je masa kan. Tup tup dah dua anak. tup tup dah makin buncit perut kita orang laki bini ni haha. biasalah kan...cukup sangat ke makan nya? entahla. But along the way, i have learned so many things about my husband and so does he. just like a cliche statement 'there is no perfect wife or perfect husband in this world'. In fact, the weakness of each partner is actually complementing each other. That makes the couple or the marriage looks perfect.

I can't deny that I love my hubby so much. More than he does (I guess). Tapi lama2 fikir balik, am I being a good wife to him all this while? At times, I am still confused when it comes to hukum yang tak jelas macam contoh kalau merajuk kat husband ni boleh ke x dlm Islam, u know that kind of thing. But take things for granted and tend to forget. My husband has never sworn to be the perfect husband to me. But I believe he has promised to be the best husband. So, should we complain if we don't really get what we want in marriage? Of course the answer is no. Life is getting more challenging as time goes by. Having two boys means there are more things/topics/subjects that you and husband need to think of. Be it financial, time, effort, emotional, spiritual. yes, it is tiring. Because without realizing it, our time with our partner is getting lesser. More focus on the kids. And I just don't understand for those yang lagi sayang anak dari suami. Astaghfirullah.. hebat sangat kah kita sampai merendahkan martabat suami?

When to think about it, I think my hubby is a perfect husband to me. Of course, he has many flaws but those flaws came because he is only human who is still trying to improve himself as a better Muslim. Same goes to me. I have flaws as well. Everyone has. This is a reminder to my own self. I want to take every problem and challenge positively with gratefulness. Not with a complain and merungut dalam hati. we have to bear in mind that our husbands are not perfect. Try to accept their weaknesses and mistakes as part of human's journey towards becoming a better Muslim. And as wives, we should talk to husbands if we find them are making mistakes in marriage. Don't just rumbling and giving them more stress and headache.

To encik hubby, if u are reading this, I know I am not the perfect wife and at times I know I terbuat muka termerajuk, please forgive me. ok jom mintak maaf ngan husband.

What else could I ask for?